It’s hard to be healthy! Put aside for a moment that it’s just plain hard to maintain self-discipline and decline dessert or order a vodka and club soda over a Bahama Mamma at the beach bar. To drag yourself to the gym when you want to be anywhere else is nothing short of heroic! This is not the difficulty to which I’m referring. I’m referring to the obstacle of dealing with other people.
To each his or her own…but this seems to be a one-way street at times in my experience. So often I’m told to “live a little,” or “not be so rigid with your diet, enjoy life,” or “you can skip a workout today, you go so often,” or “you’re always so good, just eat this.” The other favorite lines I hear that I absolutely abhor: “eewww, you’re going to eat that?” or “let me guess, you’re going to order salad?”
To be quite honest, I DO live a little and enjoy life. I do not want to skip a workout because it makes me feel good and strong. And yes, I am going to eat that seaweed salad and feel great about it! This is on a good day. What is most difficult is how these comments hit on a less than good day. Of course I want to choose the pizza, or just skip the gym to go to happy hour! However, I’ve chosen my lifestyle. I like feeling good and having energy. I love that I look very close to how I did in high school and I only fight 5 pounds, not 50. I like knowing I’m doing what I can to avoid the awful diseases debilitating so many around me.
I do my best not to push my lifestyle on those who do not want to hear it. Quite honestly, it makes me sad to see someone unhealthy or overweight complain about their lack of energy, their inability to fit into their clothes, and the many prescriptions they take while they plow into a plate of pure fat, salt, sugar and empty calories. I want to scream “you really want to eat that??” But that’s unacceptable. So why is it acceptable to say it to someone who’s doing their best to keep healthy? (*Disclaimer: I do understand not all who suffer weight gain and disease do so because of an unhealthy lifestyle. I also understand that very few truly want to be overweight or unhealthy.)
Lately, I tend to seek out relationships with other healthy-minded people not just because of what we do have in common, but because there is a mutual understanding. It’s not easy to make healthy choices MOST of the time. I like having people in my life who share the value of cherishing the body and treating it well. That person who motivates you in a weak moment is priceless! And YES, those like-minded individuals I seek out DO occasionally skip a workout and order the pancakes!!